So I was reading a post by Albert Mohler on the inconsistency of Evangelicals in fighting abortion and homosexuality yet being very silent on the topic of divorce. I am no right-wing, legislate Christian morality, conservative type of guy. I don’t think these are government matters (for the most part), but I think the reasons behind the difference in how we look at homosexuality and abortion as compared to divorce are very telling about us as people.
As Mohler points out divorces impact reaches far more people than either homosexuality or abortion. He says this to explain the importance of speaking out against divorce with at least the same vigor and persistence as abortion and homosexuality. I don’t know that I agree with the conclusion, but I think the statement demonstrates why Christians are less willing to fight against divorce: it is an issue that hits much closer to home. It is easy to fight the “bad guys” on the other side of an issue. It is easy to condemn those who kill unborn babies because we can’t imagine taking part in something so awful, or to look down on gays because we can’t relate with their unnatural desires, but it is much more difficult to look in condemnation at those who have gotten divorced simply because we have gotten divorced or someone we love has gotten divorced. Divorce is much harder to condemn because we see and know and love many people who have gone through it.
So what does this mean? To me it means that maybe we should reconsider how we approach all of these things and all of these people. Maybe we shouldn’t be so violently hateful and vicious toward those who agree with abortion and homosexuality. Maybe we should start seeing them as people, people who have been hurt, people who are struggling to understand themselves and the world around them, people who can get confused or overwhelmed or misled. Women who get abortions are just like us. Homosexuals are just like us. Maybe if we understood that our hate and malicious attitudes would change to love and encouragement and support for people who are normally hurting very badly and very confused about life. We love people who have been divorced, why can’t we love people who have abortions? Why can’t we love gay people?
Maybe I’m way off, maybe the reasons Christians are more willing to accept people who have been divorced are not what I think they are. I don’t know, but I do know that there are a lot of people out there who need help and hope and maybe some of them are gay and maybe some of them are pro choice. Does that make them our enemies?
I would just like to note that this issue is important to me, not because I am gay or pro choice, but because I have been through a divorce, I understand the way people feel going through this difficult time, and I know how painful and hard it is. The solution is not to now add divorced people to the list of villains, but to seriously consider throwing away our list of villains and sharing the love of Christ with all people.
What do you think?